Beware of the Emotional Predator

Beware of the Emotional Predator original article content

Theresa Byrne tells us how to recognize and avoid these disastrous relationships.

An emotional predator is someone who enjoys watching (or causing) pain in others. It gives them a sense of powerfulness or importance they may not feel in other parts of their lives.

In their twisted mindset the thinking would sound subconsciously like “What better way to feel important or strong than by the pain I’ve created for someone else?” or “I must be important because they’re thinking about me now!” (Insert maniacal laughter here.)

These emotional predators can show up in any type of relationship, romances, friendships, or in the workplace. While it seems that they might be easier among friends, since they aren’t intimate relationships, be warned: they can wreak havoc in many areas. Being safe in friendships is an incredibly important thing.

Keep in mind: not only do emotional predators enjoy watching the downfall, but if they are the ones that cause it, it’s even more pleasurable for them. There’s a misguided sense of power and a zing of unhealthy pleasure in knowing they caused harm to others.

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A close friend called me the other day and is going through a breakup, and it hurt my heart to listen to the sound of his heartbreak. It’s not that he didn’t know things were in trouble, but he’d always assumed he had more time to get it together, to make things right again. To get things back to the way they were once.

His story isn’t all that unusual or unlike those of any of us who’ve faced those same feelings of utter heartbreak and certain devastation; like falling from a cliff and landing on your back with the wind knocked out of you, unable to move or breathe.

“You are not broken. You aren’t. You may feel broken, but there’s nothing broken about you.” Keep Reading →

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Husband. Father. Son. Friend. Colleague (or boss). Wife. Mother. Daughter. Sister. Friend. Co-worker. I look at what it takes to succeed in the roles you play in life.
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How many different roles do you have? Have you ever sat down and counted them? I did, and here are some of mine: business owner/entrepreneur. Woman. Daughter. Sister. Friend. Abolitionist. Boss. Patient. Client. Warrior. Instructor. Coach. Neighbor. Writer. Speaker. Brain injury survivor. Martial arts master. Author/writer. Ex-wife. Positivist.

I invite you to think about it for a second—how many roles do you have? And have you ever stopped to ask what it takes to succeed in your roles? Keep Reading →

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The Nobility of Sacrifice

The Nobility of Sacrifice????

Do you believe there’s something noble in suffering? I certainly did, until I realized how much it might be holding me back.
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I didn’t know I had this particular belief running around like a martyred monkey creating havoc in my mental programming until recently.

Now, here’s the thing about programming: I understand the power of our unconscious beliefs, since one of my jobs is helping others identify and get past them; and I also know the only way to find them is to see where we’re blocked from having the life we want. Keep Reading →